response post to Taara

Taara, I completely feel your pain. I have one friend who is heavier set and your situation is exactly the same thing I go through everytime we go shopping together. My friend will complain about the same things as your friend, how her stomach is too big and sticks out too much and how she can't wear anything too short because her legs have too much cellulite on them. This annoys me so much because she will compare me to her and make me feel bad about the size that I am ( and trust me, I am far from perfect and have plenty of flaws and insecurities about my body).But the one thing I try to tell my friend is that I have issues with finding clothes as well, because I am taller and pants tend to be short on me sometimes or maybe my chest doesnt fill out a shirt as well as hers does. It's hard to comfort a friend sometimes because you want to be honest, but at the same time you can't say everything you want to because you know it will jsut hurt their feelings. As to what Lindsey said, the part about where your friend might be fishing for you to tell her something that may not necessarily be true, well I have been there. And I find that it is best to just help them find what looks and fits best! lol If you go too much into detail then you'll will be seen as a very bad friend in their eyes because instead of boosting their self esteem you will just bring it down. I, for example expect nothing but honesty. I would rather a friend tell me something looks awful on me than to sugar coat it and say it looks "fine," because I know it doensn't look "fine," it look awful! haha. With situations like these you have to be careful even with nonverbal communication because the way you look at your friend when she comes out of the dressing room could open a whole new can of worms and send the completely wrong message that you weren't intending for. I've done that, made a face that implied negativity but in reality it was uncertainty. I've learned my lesson with that. haha